Moving disrupts many families each year. This challenge hits hard as routines shatter and new anxieties arise in unfamiliar surroundings. You might wonder why your child, who once slept so well, now resists bedtime or wakes frequently at night. Many refer to these changes as sleep regression after a move. Numerous certified pediatric sleep consultants confirm that changes in the environment are significant triggers for sleep disruptions. And if moving is not a change, I don't know what is! Understanding these triggers and how to address them can restore peace to your nighttime routine.

What Is A Sleep Regression?
As tired as you likely are, the last thing you would want right now is to learn definitions. But it will help you better understand what you are dealing with. It basically represents periods when a child, previously sleeping well, suddenly starts waking up at night or has difficulty falling asleep. Typically, these episodes last a few weeks and are part of normal development. They usually happen before a child hits a major milestone, like crawling or walking. However, stressors like moving to a new home can intensify or trigger these phases, even without reaching milestones. By recognizing the signs early, such as increased fussiness or changes in sleep patterns, you can take steps to ease your child through this phase - and make life easier for yourself!

Try to Do Everything In Your Power To Avoid The Sleepless Nights
Before the relocation, you can lay the groundwork for smoother nights. Discuss the move openly with your child, using simple terms to explain what will happen and why.  Explain that you now live in one part of Canada, but now you need to move to another province because Daddy has found a new job, so you have more money to spend on new, amazing toys! How you do this will depend on your kid's age. No amount of explanation will help a newborn, but if you have a child ages 2+, there are ways to do this. Create a visual countdown calendar that helps them track the days until the move. This approach reduces anxiety by providing clear expectations about upcoming changes and when they will happen. Try to use the popular method of telling your kid that they need to sleep for several more nights until the move occurs. Keeping bedtime routines as regular as possible before the move also helps stabilize their sleep habits by helping prevent crankiness from tiredness. 

Outsource Help If Needed
If you find the transition overwhelming, consider outsourcing help. Calling grandparents or trusted friends to watch the kids while you nap can be a lifesaver. Even one hour of sleep during the day can help. For the relocation itself, while grandparents can help with the kids, they won't really be of much help with the moving logistics. Here, you need certified, skilled professionals who know the drill. Hiring movers will simplify your long-distance move tremendously, allowing you to focus entirely on your child’s emotions, which is all that they need in stressful times of change. They don't care about how the items are packed or how much time it takes to do that properly, but professional movers do. Their help is especially beneficial when moving across long distances, as this will mean crossing a distance over 1000 miles and potentially crossing province borders, as in the case of moving from Toronto to Alberta. Statistics show that 38,236 Ontarians moved to Alberta in 2022, so it won't be unusual if you want to do the same to enjoy the lower costs of living and short commute times, alongside other benefits.  

Set Up an Environment That Encourages Sleep
Once you arrive at your new home, prioritize setting up your child’s bedroom. Strive to replicate the feel of their old room—use the same bedding, arrange familiar toys nearby, and ensure the room is dark and quiet at night. Small details like maintaining the same room temperature can also make a big difference. These familiar elements act as cues that signal it is time for sleep, even in a new location.

Consistent Routines Are Lifesavers
Now, about consistent nap routines—they are your best ally to combat sleep regression after a move or stop them altogether. Have night and nap routines set in stone in your new home. If moving long distances within the same country, keep in mind that you might need to adjust your kids' routines by a few hours, but do it gradually. Naps will affect night sleep, and vice versa. If you haven't had them before the move, now would be a great time to start working on building one. Aim to keep bedtime and wake-up times the same every day. Routine actions, like reading a story or having a warm bath before bed, can work as a signal that it’s time to wind down. The predictability of these routines offers comfort and security, easing the stress of the new environment.

Anxiety and Stress
Address the emotional impacts of a move, too. After a transition, children might feel lost or scared in their new surroundings, which can disrupt their sleep. This is especially true in the age where their imagination starts working overtime. You can help reduce their anxiety with simple, comforting activities. For instance, spending extra time together during the day can reassure them that they are safe. This also might not be the best time to try to transition from co-sleeping to independent sleep - they will want to spend every moment with you, even when asleep.

Discuss their feelings about the move and the new house; sometimes, just talking about fears can reduce their power. Sometimes, you might have to check for monsters under the bed - no two days are the same with kids. 

Consider tools and techniques that ease stress at bedtime, too. A night light that casts soft shadows or background noise from a sound machine might help. And remember, a little extra patience goes a long way. Each child adjusts at their own pace, and support from you is their best comfort.

Sometimes, despite your best efforts, your child may struggle with sleep issues that persist. If you notice signs of significant distress, such as regular nightmares or the occurrence of the split nights scenario, it might be time to seek help. A professional, such as a child psychologist or a certified sleep consultant, can offer guidance tailored to your child’s needs. They can help you understand if sleep problems are a typical part of adjusting to a new home or if they stem from deeper issues.

How Should You Take Care Of Yourself If You Don't Get Enough Sleep?
It’s vital you look after yourself - even if that might not include getting enough sleep. You won't feel good no matter what you do without proper sleep, but you should try it. Parental stress can affect children, making their adjustment to the new environment harder. Ensure you manage your stress through healthy outlets:

• Exercise regularly, even if it’s a short walk. You likely won't have energy for more than that. 
• Connect with friends and talk about your feelings. Fellow parents will understand you better. 
• Take time for activities you enjoy, even scrolling on social media, before falling asleep. 

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A relaxed parent often means a relaxed child.

Good Luck With Potential Sleep Regression After a Move!
Understanding and patience are key in tackling sleep regression after a move. Each child is different, and their time to adjust will vary. By being consistent and acknowledging their feelings, you can help smooth their path to restful nights and, in return, get a good night's sleep yourself. Remember, this phase is temporary, and with the right support, your child will adapt and thrive in their new home.

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If you're the parent of a baby who's just figured out how to roll over,  is learning to crawl, or who's teething, this may come as the least surprising scientific discovery imaginable. ​Developmental Milestones often cause disruptions in a baby's sleep.  In a 2015 study published in Monographs of the Society for Research in Child Development, researchers looked at the sleep patterns of babies before they started crawling, while they were learning to crawl, and a few months after learning to crawl. The results stated that "Along with the overall improvement in sleep consolidation, periods of increased long wake episodes were also manifested; the rise in sleep disruption was temporally linked to crawling onset."   To sum it up, the results showed that babies appear to have more night time wake ups around the time that they learn to crawl.  (Nighttime wake ups were monitored by a motion sensor on the baby's ankle and were only counted if the baby was moving around for more than five minutes.)
 
To quote that same study, "In dynamic systems, downward trends in performance and in behavioural control often mark the emergence of new abilities. This pattern has been identified in diverse domains of infant development, including manual reaching, vocal production, and language acquisition."  In other words, things tend to get worse before they get better, and when your little one starts talking, you can expect some random chat sessions in the middle of the night. 
 
Teething is another one of the usual suspects when it comes to disruptions in a baby's sleep. If baby has sore gums, that discomfort is probably going to make it a little tougher to get to sleep and stay asleep.  A study from the April 2000 issue of Pediatrics looked at symptoms that could and could not be attributed to emerging teeth. It found that during the four days before a tooth emerged, the day it popped out, and for the three days following, there was a statistical increase in wakefulness and irritability. Any parent who has dealt with a teething baby has seen how the discomfort that comes along with it can be disruptive to your little one's sleep, understandably so. Though teething is one cause of disrupted sleep, language and movement skills may be responsible for more frequent nighttime wake-ups.
 
Much like the rest of us, babies get excited when they start to learn a new skill.  While watching my little one learn to crawl, it reminded me of when I first discovered how to use  Shazam to identify a song playing over the speakers in Starbucks. I was ridiculously excited!  I couldn't wait for another song to come on so I could try it again.  I started singing obscure '80s pop songs to see if it could nail them down and showed it off to everyone who would listen. To your baby, learning to talk, learning to roll over, or learning to crawl, elicits pretty much the same response. They get a real thrill out of this newfound skill, and they are going to practice it over and over.  In the morning, in the afternoon, and when they wake up in the middle of the night, and that excitement is going to make it a little more difficult for them to get back to sleep.
 
I see a lot of parents looking for a "solution" in this scenario, and in trying to get their baby's sleep back on track, they tend to lose consistency. They'll move bedtimes around, start rocking or feeding baby back to sleep, change up the bedtime routine, anything they think might help.

But the best advice I can give you is to hold steady. You're probably going to have to go in and soothe your baby a little more often during this period. You'll have to help get them out of the uncomfortable positions they manage to get themselves into.  You will likely have some frustrating nights where your little one will drive you a little batty with their babbling.

And although you can't fix the situation, you can make things substantially easier on both you and your baby. Adopting a bunch of quick-fixes to get your baby back to sleep is likely to end up creating dependencies that will last long past the time baby's figured out how to get themselves back to sleep. So please don't give in to the temptation to rock or bounce them to sleep, don't let them sleep in the swing, don't take them for car rides, and above all, don't nurse or feed them back to sleep.

Offer them some comfort, tell them it's still bedtime, help them get back into a comfortable position if they've gotten themselves pushed up against the side of the crib, or roll them onto their backs if they've flipped, but make sure to let them get back to sleep on their own. That way, once they've got this new skill mastered, they'll still have the ability to self soothe when they wake up at night.

It's likely to be a bit of a challenge, and it may feel at times like one skill gets mastered just in time for another one to start developing, but hang in there. The whole time this is going on, your baby is also developing the ability to consolidate nighttime sleep better. 

​So stay consistent, and you can expect even more of those glorious sleep-filled nights once the storm has passed.
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