NIGHTTIME POTTY TRAININGThis is it, mama. This is the final boss. The last level. The icing on the parenting cake. Well, I suppose you still have about 15 or 16 years of parenting left before you send them off to college, but those are a day at the park compared to this. I’m talking, of course, about nighttime potty training. This is another one of those parenting milestones that can seem peculiar to outsiders. Still, for those of us who have been through it, we know that a celebration of epic proportions is in order on the day we finally say our final farewell to diapers. It’s not as sexy as completing your Master’s degree or landing a big promotion, but handing down that Diaper Genie to one of your friends after getting your toddler 100% potty trained feels pretty similar on the old accomplishment-o-meter.
Today, I’ve some tips for you to determine whether your toddler is ready for nighttime potty training and, if so, how to maximize your chances of success without sacrificing the progress you’ve made with their sleep. So, jumping right in, is your little one ready to go the night without using the potty? Notice how I phrased that specifically? I’ve seen nighttime potty training approaches that involve actually going into your child’s bedroom at regular intervals during the night and waking them up to go to the bathroom! All the nopes to this approach. Every last nope in the nope collection. We do not sacrifice sleep for potty training. It’s way too confusing for a toddler to be told, after all of the work they’ve done to finally start sleeping peacefully through the night, that they now have to wake up every three or four hours to go to the bathroom. If your toddler can’t get through the night without needing to pee, they’re not ready for this. Leave their diaper on at night and tackle this at a later date. If, however, your little one’s had a few nights of waking up with a dry diaper, that could mean that they’re up to the challenge. That’s really the prime indicator that this might be a good time to give it a shot. Two or three dry mornings in a week suggests that their bladder muscles have developed to the point where they can hold it for the night, so if that’s the case, let’s give it a shot. Now, prepare yourself. I’m sure there are stories out there about The Toddler Who Potty Trained Without a Single Accident, but the odds of that happening are not in your favour. Not even close. So pick a week when you don’t have a whole lot going on, get some extra sheets and PJs at the ready, and get your zen on because the most important thing here is patience. There will be some accidents, and accepting this reality ahead of time will help make the process bearable for you and your little one. Keep this mindset when you’re explaining what’s going on to your toddler. It’s great to be enthusiastic and super-positive, but don’t make it sound too monumental. We’ve got to keep in mind that this isn’t something they have control over, and building up expectations on them can result in some feelings of failure and disappointment if they do have an accident in the night. This is also something to consider if you’re looking at a “reward chart” or some such thing for nights without an accident. I’m not inherently against them, but if your toddler tends to get really upset if they don’t make the grade, it might be better to let them succeed or fail without rewards and consequences. Make sure your toddler gets on the potty right before bed, even if they say they don’t need to go.
I know many parents have found that a potty session 30 minutes before bedtime, followed by another one right before bed, has yielded the best results. When an accident happens, as it probably will at least a few times, don’t act disappointed or irritated. (Go ahead and feel that way, sure, but you keep that noise to yourself.) Just take your toddler by the hand and walk them back to their room, get them cleaned up and into some fresh pyjamas, and change their bed with the clean sheets you’ve prepared ahead of time. I do have one really sweet pro tip for you here. Grab some plastic sheeting, lay a layer over the mattress, then add a set of bed sheets, followed by another layer of plastic, and finally another set of bed sheets. That way, if there’s an accident in the night, you just go in, strip off the top layer, and bam! There’s a clean, dry, freshly made bed waiting underneath. That’ll help get you and your little one back to bed in no time flat. Keep the room as dark as possible, keep the process brief, and avoid putting your little one in the bath unless absolutely necessary. Getting into the tub is likely to throw a wrench in your child’s sleep for the night. They might get it into their heads that wetting the bed gets them fifteen minutes in the bath, which, for some kids, might sound like a pretty sweet proposition. So what happens if it doesn’t take? If you’re still experiencing regular accidents after a week or two, consider the situation. Is your toddler ready and just not willing, or willing but not ready? And when you’re deciding, consider whether your own desire to see an end to diapers is influencing your decision. Any sane parent would love to say goodbye to diapers as soon as possible, but there really is no rushing this process. If they’re not ready, they’re not ready, and you’re just putting a lot of unnecessary stress on both of you by trying to get it done before it’s time. To reiterate, one last time, getting your toddler out of their diaper is not worth sacrificing their sleep routine. Don’t attempt this crazy “dream-potty” routine where you try to get them to pee while they’re still sleeping, don’t wake them up halfway through the night to go to the bathroom, and don’t drop two hundred bucks on a bed-wetting alarm. (How is that even a thing?) You’ll just be trading one issue for another, and since you’ve already put the work in to get them sleeping through the night, you’re much better off just waiting until the moment is right. -Erin Neri, BA. Psychology, Certified Pediatric Sleep Consultant, Infant Mental Health, Integrated Feeding Specialist How Physical Activity Boosts Natural Sleep Hormones in KidsSleep struggles often frustrate parents. But the answer might not always be in a supplement, sleep coaching or screen restriction. Instead, the solution could be as simple as movement. Science now shows that physical activity boosts natural sleep hormones in kids, supporting melatonin and serotonin balance in a powerful way. While bedtime routines matter, what happens during the day plays a larger role than many expect. This article breaks down the connection between movement and sleep. Why Kids’ Bodies Respond Strongly to Exercise Children aren’t just small adults. Their bodies change fast, and so do their sleep rhythms. Hormones shift as they grow, and those shifts affect bedtime. Unlike adults, kids can’t fake energy. If they don’t move enough, it shows. Their brains build energy during rest, but they release that energy through movement. Without that daily release, sleep becomes lighter and less consistent. Even short bursts of activity help. A game of tag, a backyard run, or jumping over sidewalk cracks gives the brain a natural push. The body then begins its nighttime hormone cycle on time. When to Encourage Active Play Not all physical activity supports good sleep. Timing matters more than most people think. Exercise early in the day sets the stage for restful nights. The brain links daylight and movement with a healthy circadian rhythm. Children who play in the morning or afternoon usually fall asleep faster at night. Evening exercise might delay that cycle. If your child runs around too close to bedtime, they may struggle to calm down. While some evening walks are fine, rough play or intense sports should wrap up by dinnertime. Here’s when to aim for movement:
The Benefits Go Beyond Sleep Physical movement doesn’t just help sleep—it supports nearly every part of a child’s development. In fact, the many benefits of physical activity for children include stronger bones, improved balance, and sharper focus. When kids move, they gain body awareness. They learn what tired feels like. They begin to recognize rest as a reward, not a punishment. This mindset helps them ease into sleep without resistance. Exercise also decreases screen time, which helps sleep by itself. Active kids are less likely to stay glued to devices, which can delay melatonin production. What Sleep Hormones Actually Do in the Brain Melatonin often gets the spotlight, but it’s only part of the picture. Serotonin—the hormone linked to calmness and happiness—also sets the tone for sleep. Physical activity raises both of these hormones in natural ways. As kids move, their brains respond with a healthy dose of serotonin. Later, as darkness sets in, that serotonin helps the body create melatonin. This internal process works best when it follows a routine. The brain wants consistency. Random bursts of activity won’t help much. Instead, a regular pattern allows the brain to predict when it’s time to rest. Parents who support daily movement are giving their children the tools to rest well, not just now, but long into adulthood. How Much Movement Is Enough for Kids? Parents often ask how much exercise children need. The answer depends on age, but general guidelines exist. Children ages 3 to 5 need active play throughout the day. Kids ages 6 to 17 should get at least one hour of moderate to intense physical activity every day. That might sound like a lot. However, it doesn’t all need to happen at once. Break it into chunks. A 20-minute walk, a quick bike ride, and 15 minutes of dancing in the living room can add up. Even better, you don’t need expensive gear or planned sports. Focus on consistency, not perfection. When physical activity becomes routine, the body knows when to rest. As expected, this rhythm helps sleep because physical activity boosts natural sleep hormones in kids. The Difference Between Structured and Free Play Not all movement looks the same. Some children enjoy organized sports. Others prefer unstructured play. Both types help the body prepare for deep sleep. Structured activity includes soccer, dance class, martial arts, or gym time. These improve endurance and discipline. Free play, on the other hand, allows creativity. It lets kids move at their own pace. Together, these two styles support different parts of the brain. They also reduce stress. A child who laughs while chasing friends or builds strength in gymnastics often sleeps better at night. Let your child try both. Pay attention to how they feel afterward. If your child seems relaxed and happy, you’re on the right path. How Movement Helps Mitigate The Sleep Disruptors Many parents focus only on bedtime routines. That matters, but the room environment plays a role too. Screens, loud toys, cluttered shelves, or strong lighting can disturb rest. These common sleep disruptors in the nursery confuse a child’s sense of time and calm. Even dim nightlights can delay melatonin release. However, regular movement during the day balances out these effects. When a child runs, climbs, or skips, their body uses energy in healthy ways. Then, when night comes, the body feels ready to wind down—even if the room setup isn’t perfect. This natural fatigue pushes melatonin to the right level. It creates stronger and longer sleep cycles. Always Try To Maintain the Sleep Schedule Breaks from school or travel can throw off bedtime routines. However, that doesn’t mean you must give up on sleep quality. Staying active during vacations helps preserve rest cycles. To succeed, keep some daytime patterns the same. Meals, outdoor play, and rest should stay on track. That way, the body continues to follow its internal clock. If you’re worried about maintaining the sleep schedule over holidays, look for simple movement options. Morning walks, hotel pool swims, or dance breaks indoors can all work. The key is to keep the body alert during the day so the brain knows when to rest. Also, try to avoid late-night screens or sugary treats. Those can undo the benefits of daily activity. Physical Activity Boosts Natural Sleep Hormones in Kids So Use It!
Now you’ve seen the science and the benefits. It’s clear that physical activity boosts natural sleep hormones in kids in a way that supports their entire well-being. Try a small change today. Add movement after breakfast or bring music into your afternoon. Your child’s body and brain will respond. Keep it simple, stay consistent, and stay active, not passive. That’s how strong sleep habits start. Images used: https://unsplash.com/photos/boy-running-on-lawn-87n4IpQl6c4 https://unsplash.com/photos/girl-running-on-grass-field-EyTS92S8lPs https://unsplash.com/photos/brown-brain-decor-in-selective-focus-photography-3KGF9R_0oHs https://unsplash.com/photos/boy-in-blue-and-white-shirt-beside-brown-bear-plush-toy-cGDi_0bz90s Are Essential Oils Safe for Babies?By now, I’m sure you’ve heard the stories surrounding essential oils and aromatherapy. Suppose you’re living on this planet and have access to the internet. In that case, you’re undoubtedly familiar with the headlines about peppermint oil being a miracle cure for nausea or oregano oil’s powerful antifungal properties. Many of us have at least one friend from high school who tried their hand selling doTERRA oils, and it’s easy to see why. The global essential oil market was expected to reach almost $12 billion USD by 2022. (That’s not a typo, folks. Twelve billion. With a “B.”) Essential oils are big business, and people who like them like them a lot. What are essential oils used for? It would be a much more efficient approach to list the afflictions that essential oils aren’t said to remedy. If you ask the Essential Oil advocates, almost every affliction in the book seems to have an essential oil solution. Doctors and researchers might be more likely to refer you to the success stories of tea tree oil for acne prevention or citrus oil’s ability to prevent bacterial growth since those are more scientifically established. But just for the sake of brevity, I can tell you that Essential Oils, as well as some of their individual components, possess antimicrobial, antiviral, antibiotic, anti-inflammatory, and antioxidant properties as well as purported psychogenic effects such as relieving stress, treating depression, and aiding with insomnia. Do essential oils work? It’s hard to say. Most studies involving essential oils haven’t been extended to clinical trials yet. People who use them will swear up and down that they’re effective. However, peer-reviewed scientific studies are still on the fence, largely because it’s challenging to study the effectiveness of many essential oils because they don’t contain one specific component. In an individual oil, up to 400 substances can be identified. Are essential oils safe for babies? Sorry to keep being so ambiguous. That really depends on how the essential oils are used. So far, it appears that there are very few adverse side effects from essential oils when they’re used as directed. However, it’s important to note that, in the US, they do not require approval from the FDA. One notable exception is the estrogen-like effects noted for lavender and tea tree oils, which have been linked to breast enlargement in prepubescent boys when applied over long periods of time. Will lavender oil help my baby sleep? I mean, maybe? Much like any other aromatherapy remedy, it might help a little, it might help a lot, or it might have no effect whatsoever. It depends on the baby. What HAS been proven to help your baby sleep more soundly through the night is the development of their independent sleep skills. Babies who can get themselves back to sleep when they wake up at night sleep for longer stretches at a time and have lower proportions of active sleep and higher proportions of quiet sleep. So, by all means, if you’re comfortable with using essential oils safely and you find them effective, then go to town. But suppose your baby needs a thorough, comprehensive approach to help address the root causes of their sleep issues. In that case, I’m ready to help with a step-by-step approach and all the support you need while they master those independent sleep skills. Better nights are right around the corner! For tips on using essential oils safely, look at these guidelines from our friends at Johns Hopkins All Children’s Hospital.
Learn how gradual sleep coaching techniques can lead to long-term success, and make sure not to change the pattern for any reason! Sleep is one of the most critical aspects of early childhood development, but many parents struggle to establish consistent sleep patterns for their babies and toddlers. While sleep training can seem overwhelming, gradual sleep coaching techniques can lead to long-term success. With the right strategies, parents can help their baby take better naps, eliminate early morning wake-ups, and get their child to sleep better throughout the night. Let's dive into how these techniques can bring harmony to bedtime routines. Gradual sleep coaching is a method that involves gently teaching babies to fall asleep on their own without relying on sleep props like pacifiers or rocking. Unlike abrupt methods, such as "cry it out," this approach prioritizes a slower, step-by-step process to help the baby adjust. This minimizes stress for both the child and the parents. Over time, it helps babies learn to soothe themselves and fall asleep independently. This method can help your baby take better naps during the day. Consistent nap routines Establishing consistent nap routines is often one of the biggest challenges for parents. Babies have trouble consolidating daytime sleep, frequently waking up after short naps. Parents can ensure that their child’s sleep environment is dark, free from distractions, and consistent to improve naps. White noise machines or blackout curtains can also help babies stay asleep longer by blocking out sudden noises or daylight. One of the most common sleep issues parents face is early morning wake-ups. Waking up too early can affect a child’s mood and energy levels throughout the day, not to mention disrupting the entire family's schedule. Gradual sleep coaching techniques can help move early morning wake-ups to a more reasonable time by adjusting bedtime and managing the child’s sleep environment. The first step is assessing the child’s total sleep time. Often, an early wake-up is caused by an overtired or overstimulated child. Making gradual adjustments to the bedtime routine, such as putting your baby to bed earlier or introducing a calming activity before bed, can lead to longer and more consistent sleep. Also, ensure that your child wakes up simultaneously every day. This helps regulate their internal clock, making it easier to eliminate early morning wake-ups altogether. Help Your Child Sleep Better Long-term sleep success hinges on getting your child to sleep through the night. This is where gradual sleep coaching truly shines. When done correctly, this approach can help your child sleep better by addressing underlying habits that disrupt sleep. For example, many babies rely on being rocked, fed, or held to fall asleep, but once they wake up in the middle of the night, they cannot get back to sleep without help. Gradually, you can teach your child to self-soothe by slowly reducing your involvement in their sleep routine. Instead of immediately intervening when they wake up, allow a few minutes for them to settle themselves. This might involve reducing the time spent rocking them or slowly transitioning from feeding them to using other calming techniques like gentle back patting or a comforting voice. Consistency is the main step during this process. If you maintain the same bedtime and sleep routine every night, children will be more likely to develop the skills they need to sleep independently. Gradual sleep coaching is not a quick fix—it requires time, patience, and persistence. However, the long-term benefits are worth the effort. Children who learn to fall asleep on their own sleep better and develop healthier sleep habits that can last a lifetime. Sleep Pattern During Moving Parents often feel overwhelmed by sleep training, especially during a relocation. In most cases, they turn to a company such as Harris Movers, which understands the importance of healthy sleep, especially during stressful times like moving. Maintaining sleep routines during major life changes, such as moving homes, is necessary to provide consistency for your child. They can help parents navigate challenges and develop a sleep coaching plan that fits their family’s needs. Regarding sleep coaching, gradual techniques allow parents to nurture healthy sleep habits over time, avoiding the stress of more intense methods. These approaches are designed to support both the baby and the parents through the process, making it easier to implement lasting changes. Sleep coaching offers a more peaceful way to create consistent sleep patterns, improve naps, address early wake-ups, and help children sleep better. The Importance of a Pre-Sleep Routine Creating a calming pre-sleep routine is another essential strategy in gradual sleep coaching. A soothing bedtime routine helps signal the baby that it’s time to sleep. This could include a warm bath, a gentle massage, or reading a short bedtime story. Over time, consistent routines help babies associate certain activities with sleep, making it easier for them to fall asleep. Ensuring the baby’s sleep environment is consistent across naps and nighttime also reinforces the sleep routine, promoting better sleep habits. It’s important to note that gradual sleep coaching isn’t just about improving the child’s sleep. It also benefits parents by reducing stress and promoting family well-being. Parents feel empowered as they see progress with minimal tears. The gentle nature of this approach allows families to remain consistent without the emotional toll that harsher methods can cause. Gradual sleep coaching fosters a positive sleep environment that promotes long-term healthy sleep habits for the entire family.
Gradual Sleep Coaching Techniques Can Lead to Long-Term Success So, now you know. Gradual sleep coaching techniques can lead to long-term success. This method builds long-term healthy habits without overwhelming parents or babies. You can create a calm, consistent bedtime routine that makes sleep easier. Adjusting your baby’s environment helps with naps, early wake-ups, and sleeping through the night. As your child learns to self-soothe, they will begin sleeping better, and your stress levels will decrease. Consistency and patience are key. Small, steady changes lead to lasting success. This approach benefits the whole family, creating a peaceful and restful environment. Gradual sleep coaching supports both your baby’s sleep needs and your emotional well-being. Photos via: Pexels Pexels Pexels Saying Bye to Bottles: Transition Tips for Toddlers A Parents GuideWhen to Ditch the Bottle: A Guide for Parents. As a Certified Pediatric Sleep Consultant, one of the most common questions I receive from parents is about when to transition their child from a bottle to a cup. This milestone can be both exciting and challenging. Understanding the right age and reasons for making this change can help ensure a smooth transition for your child and support their overall health and development. The Recommended Age The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends that parents start the transition from bottle to cup at around 12 months of age. By 16 months, most children should be fully weaned off the bottle. This timeframe is not only ideal for encouraging developmental milestones but also for preventing potential health issues associated with prolonged bottle use. Why Make the Switch? Dental Health Prolonged bottle use, especially with milk or sugary drinks, can lead to tooth decay. According to a study published in the Journal of Pediatrics, toddlers who use a bottle beyond 12 months are at a higher risk for developing cavities. The sugar in milk and juice can pool around the teeth, creating an environment for bacteria to thrive. Oral Development Extended bottle use can affect the development of a child’s oral muscles and palate. The sucking motion required for bottle feeding is different from that used for drinking from a cup. A study from the American Dental Association highlights that long-term bottle use can contribute to issues such as misaligned teeth and improper jaw development. Encouraging Independence Transitioning to a cup is a significant step towards independence for your child. It encourages the development of fine motor skills and hand-eye coordination. Using a cup requires different muscle movements, which are crucial for speech development and overall motor skills. Nutritional Balance Children who rely heavily on bottle feeding might consume excessive amounts of milk, which can lead to iron deficiency anemia. A Journal of Pediatric Gastroenterology and Nutrition study found that toddlers drinking more than 24 ounces of milk daily are at a higher risk of iron deficiency anemia. By transitioning to a cup, you can help ensure your child is receiving a balanced diet with a variety of nutrients. Bottle as a Sleep Prop Many parents use bottles as part of the bedtime routine, which can turn the bottle into a sleep prop. This dependency can interfere with the development of independent sleep skills. Eliminating the bedtime bottle encourages healthier sleep habits and self-soothing techniques. How to Transition Start Gradually Begin by introducing a sippy cup with water during meals. Allow your child to explore and play with the cup to become familiar with it. Reduce Bottle Use Gradually decrease the number of bottles offered, starting with daytime bottles. Replace them with cups during meals and snacks. Offer Positive Reinforcement Praise and encourage your child when they use the cup. Positive reinforcement can make the transition smoother and more enjoyable. Consistency is Key Be consistent with the transition. If you decide to eliminate the bedtime bottle, stick to it. Offer comfort in other ways, such as through bedtime stories or cuddles. Lead by Example Children often mimic their parents. Drink from a cup in front of your child to show them it’s the normal way to consume beverages. References
AuthorErin Neri - Certified Pediatric Sleep Consultant and Owner of To The Moon and Back Sleep Consulting since 2016. Surviving the Extinction BurstParenting a toddler can be a whirlwind of joy, laughter, and, sometimes, sleepless nights. If you’ve embarked on the journey of sleep training, you might be familiar with the term "extinction burst." It sounds daunting, but understanding and addressing it can be the key to a peaceful night’s sleep for both you and your little one. Let's dive into what an extinction burst is, why it happens, and how you can navigate through it successfully. What is an Extinction Burst? An extinction burst occurs when you first start to withdraw reinforcement from a behaviour—in this case, your toddler’s nighttime awakenings. Picture this: your toddler has gotten used to certain responses when they wake up at night, such as being picked up, rocked, or given a bottle. When you begin sleep training and stop these responses, your toddler might initially escalate their behaviour. This escalation is the extinction burst. Essentially, things get worse before they get better as your child tests the boundaries to see if their previous behaviour will eventually yield the desired response. Steps to Work Through the Extinction Burst
When to Seek Professional Help If you find that the extinction burst is lasting longer than expected, or if you're struggling to stay consistent and need additional support, don’t hesitate to seek help from a professional. A certified pediatric sleep consultant can offer personalized advice and strategies tailored to your child’s needs. They can also provide the emotional support you need during this challenging time. Final Thoughts Navigating through an extinction burst during sleep training can be exhausting, but it’s a vital step toward helping your toddler learn to self-soothe and sleep independently. By staying consistent, creating a comforting bedtime routine, and seeking help when necessary, you can guide your child through this phase and onto restful nights for the entire family. Remember, you’re not alone in this journey. Many parents have faced the same challenges and come out the other side with happier, well-rested children. Hold on to that thought, keep pushing through, and soon, peaceful nights will become the norm rather than the exception. If you need help through this stage of your sleep training journey I'd be more than happy to help. Book your Free 20-minute Sleep Evaluation Call today. I'll learn more about what's happening with your child's sleep, explain why and how I can help your family become a well rested one. AuthorErin Neri - Certified Pediatric Sleep Consultant and Owner of To The Moon and Back Sleep Consulting since 2016. Throughout the sleep training process, I'm often asked how to keep baby awake through their feeding during the bedtime routine. When you're working on sleep training, my number one rule is to keep your baby wide awake through any feeds. Nine times out of ten, the problem is that the bottle or breast has become a sleep prop. If you don't break the connection your baby has between the feed and sleep, the process will be so much more complicated. It can cause night wake-ups, and then when they wake up at night, they will still have the idea that they need a bottle or breast to get back to sleep at night. I suggest moving the feeding up in the bedtime routine. Most people have a feeding as the last step. That can be tricky, especially if they're not napping great yet. They could be tired by the time bedtime comes. By the time they've had a bath, and you've got jammies on, reading stories, and then you're going into a feed, they might be way too exhausted even to try to stay awake for the feed. Then you're fighting a battle of tickling and talking to them and trying to keep them awake, and they're so tired they really can't help you out. I suggest you move it up to before the bath. Have the feed, then the bath, jammies, stories, and then bed. That will help break any connection they have with the bottle related to sleep. If that feels a bit early in the routine, move it immediately after the bath. Sometimes, the tub stimulates children a little, so the feed can help calm them down. Most children really like their bath, so they'll be a bit more awake when you get to the feed. Then, you can move on to the next steps. The good news is that the better naps get, the less tired they'll be by bedtime, so that's something to look forward to. The more the separation between the bottle and sleep develops, the less likely they are to try to fall asleep at the bottle. You'll find that with time, even if they are exhausted, they won't use the feeding as a prop. There won't be a connection there anymore. Your baby will happily have their feed and then put themselves to sleep just fine when they get to the crib. AuthorErin Neri - Certified Pediatric Sleep Consultant and Owner of To The Moon and Back Sleep Consulting since 2016. Discover the keys to helping children adjust to a new bedroom with comfort items, sleep aids, and a supportive bedtime routine. Moving to a new house can be an exciting adventure, but it often comes with a fair share of anxiety and uncertainty for children. One of the key challenges parents face during this transition is helping children adjust to a new bedroom, which plays a pivotal role in maintaining healthy sleep habits. In this article, we'll explore how comfort items and sleep aids can be instrumental in creating a soothing and welcoming environment for your child. By doing so, you'll not only ease their transition but also ensure that they maintain healthy sleep habits during a move. Let's delve into making a new bedroom a comforting haven for your little one.
Creating a Cozy Haven When embarking on helping children adjust to a new bedroom, the first step is to create a cozy haven that feels like home. Preparations should start even before the relocation. Therefore, make sure to organize everything thoughtfully as you pack up their old bedroom for the move. This approach ensures their favorite items and comfort pieces are readily accessible in their new space. Soft, inviting bedding with familiar patterns or colors can make the new room feel like a comforting cocoon. Consider involving your child in the decoration process, allowing them to choose a few decor items or wall art pieces that resonate with their personality. Additionally, if possible, maintain the layout of their old bedroom as closely as possible. Familiarity in placement can provide a sense of continuity that's incredibly reassuring during this period of change. Remember, the goal is to craft an atmosphere that fosters feelings of safety and security, helping your child transition smoothly to their new bedroom. The Power of Familiarity Comfort items are akin to a child's trusted companions. They carry the essence of familiarity, providing security amid change. These cherished items are crucial when helping children adjust to a new bedroom. Whether it's a stuffed animal, a well-loved blanket, or a favorite toy, these treasures can soothe and reassure the child. As you settle into the new space, encourage your child to place their beloved items in appropriate locations. Their old bedtime buddies can serve as anchors, connecting the past with the present. The scent and touch of these items can evoke a strong sense of comfort, helping your child feel more at ease in their unfamiliar surroundings. Familiarity doesn't just stop at comfort items. Consider replicating the lighting conditions and room temperature from their previous bedroom. If the old room had a cozy reading nook, recreate something similar. These seemingly small elements collectively contribute to creating a reassuring ambiance, reinforcing the idea that this new bedroom is still a safe and welcoming place. Nightlights and Sleep Aids Light and darkness significantly affect sleep, especially for children adjusting to a new bedroom. The fear of the dark can be a common challenge during this transition, and nightlights can be a simple yet effective solution. A gentle nightlight can provide a reassuring glow, dispelling shadows and making the room feel less intimidating. Opt for a soft, warm light or dim red light that won't disrupt sleep patterns. In addition to nightlights, consider incorporating sleep aids into your child's bedtime routine. White noise machines can drown out unfamiliar sounds, creating a peaceful auditory environment. Ocean or rain sounds can be particularly helpful in lulling your child to sleep. Using a Zenimal to help your child drift off to sleep with a peaceful sleep meditation or story. It's essential to choose sleep aids that are age-appropriate and safe for your child's use. These aids can offer comfort and security, making adjusting to a new bedroom a smoother experience. The goal is to create an environment where your child feels protected and relaxed, ensuring a good night's sleep even in unfamiliar surroundings. Bedtime Routine Establishing a consistent bedtime routine is one of the most effective ways to help children adjust to a new bedroom. This ritual signals your child that it's time to wind down and provides a sense of predictability in their new environment. Begin by setting a bedtime and sticking to it as closely as possible, even on weekends. That helps regulate your child's internal clock and ensures they get the recommended amount of sleep for their age. Incorporate calming activities like reading a book, taking a warm bath, or gentle cuddling into the routine. These activities help your child relax and create positive associations with bedtime. If you have a baby, a well-structured bedtime routine can be instrumental in helping them get better naps throughout the day. Keep the room dimly lit to signal that it's nighttime. As you go through the routine consistently, your child will understand that it's time for sleep, adjusting their new bedroom to be smoother and more restful. Parental Support and Communication Your support and open communication are indispensable while helping children adjust to a new bedroom. Children often look to their parents for reassurance, especially in times of change. Here are some key ways to provide the support your child needs:
In Conclusion In helping children adjust to a new bedroom, we've discovered the incredible impact of comfort items, sleep aids, and a consistent bedtime routine. Parental support, communication, and proactive problem-solving play pivotal roles in this transition. Remember, maintaining healthy sleep habits during a move is essential for your child's well-being. By creating a cozy haven, embracing familiarity, and providing the necessary tools for comfort, you can ensure that your child not only adjusts but thrives in their new bedroom. Image via Pexels How to get your partner involved in sleep training your baby or toddler?One of the most interesting aspects of my job is that I get to work so closely with such a wide variety of people and personalities. Coming into people’s lives, especially at a time when they’re vulnerable and emotional, lets you get to know them in a hurry. I can honestly say that I’ve never really had two families that reminded me of one another. The difference between every family I’ve worked with is simply astonishing. And obviously, as the demographics that define the traditional “nuclear family” have shifted over time, those differences have become much more varied and fascinating. One thing that seems to remain somewhat constant is that there’s usually one parent I would define as the primary caregiver. I’ve seen families where parents split the childcare duties 51-49. I’ve seen others where one parent tackles the feeding, bathing, supervision, education, and doctor visits, and the other reads their bedtime stories. Both of these scenarios and everything in between is absolutely fine by me, of course. Any two people who can reach an agreement on what works for them in terms of raising their family deserve a medal, as far as I’m concerned. But let’s not kid each other; sleep training is a tough slog. You’re obviously sleep deprived by the time you decide to take action. You have a few nights ahead of you that will probably test your patience and determination. If only one person’s involved, it will be that much more of a challenge. So I am writing this post to you today, dear secondary caregiver. If you’re feeling left out of the child-rearing process and wishing you had more of an opportunity to bond with your baby and take some of the parenting stress off your partner’s shoulders, this is your moment. Right here. And let me tell you something... no dinner at a five-star restaurant, no front-row concert tickets, no trip to a tropical paradise, is going to solidify your place as your partner’s hero quite like taking a leading role in getting your baby sleeping through the night. I am not even slightly exaggerating here. If you’re reading this, I would guess there’s a decent chance you’re already feeling the effects of at least a few nights of sleep deprivation, so you don’t need to be told how serious the effects really are. The thought of months or even years of this seems like an impossible situation, and your partner undoubtedly feels the same way. So when you jump out in front of the problem and tell your partner, “I’m here, and I’m ready to tackle this situation alongside you,” it may well result in one of the most passionate, heartfelt smooching sessions of your life. Nothing is sexier than waking up exhausted in the middle of the night and seeing your partner already getting out of bed, telling you to lie down and go back to sleep with those three magic words... “I got this.” Is it easy? No, not particularly. Sleep training can be challenging. There’s likely to be some crying, some moments of doubt, and a few trying nights, but everyone I’ve guided through the process has told me unreservedly that they would do it all over again in a heartbeat now that they’ve got their child sleeping through the night. So now that you’re ready to take the reins on this horse, I’d like to speak to the primary caregiver again. Call them into the room, hand them your tablet, pass them your phone, whatever the situation warrants. Are you there? OK, good. So check this out, you lucky duck. Your partner is awesome. They recognize your efforts in raising your baby and want to pull a little extra weight to make up for all your hard work. In addition, they want to take an active role in helping you get your baby sleeping through the night. So congratulations on your excellent choice of a partner. So what’s the catch? Well, you have one very simple but difficult task here. You have to let them do it. As the chair of the parenting department, that might not be easy. You’re probably used to having veto power when it comes to baby-centred decisions. Still, I want you to relinquish that for a while. Sleep training requires consistency, and you and your partner should have a well-established plan you’re both comfortable with. Still, there’s room for each of you to have a different style within that framework. So please resist the urge to hover over your partner as they figure out their own approach. It’s vital that they know you’re confident in their parenting abilities. Micromanaging someone else’s parenting will likely result in them just throwing their hands up and saying, “Fine, you do it.” Then you’re on your own again, and your partner probably ends up harbouring a hint of resentment. Don’t undervalue what you’ve got here. This is someone with a deep and genuine love for your child who’s available and eager to help you with one of the most daunting challenges of early parenting. Moreover, they’re willing to do it for nothing! There are a lot of single parents out there who would literally step over their own mothers for that kind of an offer. So be cool. Let your partner do their thing. You might be pleasantly surprised at their results, and you enjoy the rather sublime experience of watching them build their own little set of inside jokes, routines, and nuances. It’s like the sweetest thing in the world. So now, bring your partner back into the room, would you? I want to talk to both of you together here. So go ahead; I’ll wait. Are both of you there? Alright, good. Listen, what you’re about to do is really going to do amazing things for your little family unit. You’re going to get your baby sleeping through the night, which means you’ll both be sleeping through the night again. But you’re also committing to doing it together, making this endeavour even sweeter. You’re going to learn how supportive you can both be in some challenging moments, how much stronger the two of you make each other, and how unstoppable you are when you parent as a team. You’re taking a problem that could seriously deteriorate your relationship and agreeing to tackle it together. I think you should both be very proud of that. I hope it goes smoothly from the jump, but remember, if it doesn’t, I’m always here to help. Two parents presenting a united front is a mighty force. Still, those same parents armed with an expert to help them through this process, well, that’s practically unstoppable. AuthorErin Neri - Certified Pediatric Sleep Consultant and Owner of To The Moon and Back Sleep Consulting since 2016. |
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